Scars of Survival

Scars of Survival

Most days are difficult. I mean, it’s better now that it was at some points in the past, but I know that I go through peaks and valleys. Not every day is a particularly good day. And when days get stacked together full of work and stress, and I can’t stop for a while and let every thought leave my head, those are the worst days. The days where I switch to autopilot except for the really important tasks at work or in class. But things are better now than they were in the distant past. 

Broken and Restored

Broken and Restored

Some statistic out there says 80% of couples divorce after suffering child loss. I have no idea if this is actually true, but it became my truth. It was the truth I would push against every time our marriage hit a pothole, lost its footing, and especially when we hit rock bottom. Even at rock bottom, that statistic hung in the air and had me swearing I would not be part of it. Besides the odds against me, my daughters suffered through too much—too much out of their control—to then suffer through a divorce.

Finding a New Marriage

Finding a New Marriage

Before my wife, Jen, and I could deal with our grief as a married couple, I discovered I first had to deal with all of my own issues. But even before that, the actual first step was to acknowledge that I had issues to face. There was no way we as a couple could thrive if I didn’t tackle my own issues. I could feel my issues underneath the surface, but we were both numb—until one day I couldn’t hold the issues down any longer.