Shared by Missy Fischer & her friend Jennifer
Q: How did you and Missy meet?
A: Missy and I met through my fiancé, Michael. She and her husband rode [motorcycles], and so did Michael and I. Missy and her husband, Mike, were there for Michael when he and I went through a rough patch, and he couldn't wait to introduce me to the two of them.
Q: Did you have a lot of support when you found out Michael passed away?
A: I had a ton of support when Michael died. Not only from family and friends, but also from the church. Missy was a Godsend with the connections she made for me and the people she sent into our life.
Q: What did you find to be true about your friendships after time had gone by?
A: The saddest thing that I found out about friendships as time went on was that there was no genuine friendship from most people. Everything in the last couple of years of being in Woodstock was totally fake. I have only a handful of people that I still consider friends out of all the people that Michael introduced me to. Michael would be devastated to see what has happened in the last 9 months. It is very sad...
Q: What do you wish you could have said to the people who left you in your time of need?
A: I have so much anger inside me, and so much that I want to say to so many people, but I am discovering that it wouldn't do any good to say anything to anybody. They are fake and never were my friends. I have seen different sides to people that nobody else sees, and nobody would believe anything that I had to say, anyway. His family and a couple of other people have turned me into the bad guy, and have trashed my name to everybody. I have decided to let that part of my life go. I have to focus on myself and my daughter. We are the only two people who matter, and I am the only person to take care of things. My life totally fell apart in April of last year, and I have to figure out how to put things back together as much as possible. Nobody can help me do that. Nobody understands or gets how losing Michael affected Sarah and I. They feel that it’s been almost a year, and we should get over it and move on with our lives. I wish it was that easy. I wish that I could be that cold-hearted person who feels nothing, but I do feel pain, heartache, anger, and loneliness. Saying anything to these people would be a waste of my time.
Q: What is something you have learned about friendship after you went through such a terrible time in your life?
A: Real friendships are hard to find, and only a real friendship can withstand the ultimate test of life. It takes a strong person to be a real friend.
Q: What do you wish people would know about someone who has lost someone they love?
A: I wish I had an answer for this question, but there is no answer. You have to decide for yourself what kind of person you are going to be to someone who has lost someone. Are you going to be there for them no matter what time of the day or night it is? Are you going to be there for them at the moment, and then 9 months, 1 year, 5 years down the road? Are you going to be there for them if they decide that they want to date again? Are you going to be there for them if they decide to never date again, because they are scared to death to go through it again? Only you can decide what kind of person you are going to be...