Good morning, Trench Dwellers!
This week concludes our latest series, Motherhood: A Love So Deep. It was a privilege and honor to partner with Grieving Parents Support Network and May We All Heal as grieving moms shared their children with us.
Visit our blog to read last week's stories from Katie and Kristen (and all the stories from this past month). If you are a grieving parent, please check out the Grieving Parents Support Network website and the May We All Heal Facebook group. We will wrap up the series this week by reposting the three stories about my son, Eli. He is the reason Stories from the Trenches was started, and if you are new to our community in the last year, we want to connect you with our roots.
Last night, I hosted a Facebook Live event wrapping up our May series and sharing our summer plans. You can watch the video on our Facebook page. We are in the process of planning more summer events, and we will share details about those in future newsletters and at www.storiesfromthetrenches.org/events.
Speaking of events, this past week, SFTT Assistant Britni Pemberton had her beautiful rainbow baby, William Klaus. Welcome adorable Klaus to your trench family! While Britni is on maternity leave, we welcomed Becky Dawes to the SFTT team. Becky will be my assistant for the summer and then transition to being our event coordinator.
NEEDS AND OPPORTUNITIES
Our June and July stories schedules have been filled! We are beginning to plan August and the fall. Are you a college student or recent college graduate who has a trench story to share? Are you the parent of a college student who could share what life is like being an "empty nester"? Do you have a back-to-school trench story? You can submit your story at www.storiesfromthetrenches.org/stories or email me with any questions at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Our forums are waiting to grow us in engagement and connection. Come join the conversation or start your own today! This week's forum question under Parenting: My parenting changes in the summer. The hustle and bustle of school season gives way to a relax schedule mixed with vacations. Though my kids do end up at each other's throats more. How do you handle your children bickering, fighting, or snapping at each other or at you? Share your thoughts.
Last week's question under Coffee & Tequila: What's on your summer reading list or your favorite summer read? Tell us your book recommendations.
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Our first event, Just Breathe, was this past Saturday. Thank you to those who came to support SFTT and cheer me on! Live speaking was way more nerve-wracking than I first thought. There was no video take to delete or Facebook Live recording to pause—just me and fifteen sets of eyes on me. I'm sure as we do more of these, my nerves will calm down, but boy those first few minutes until I got my groove were hard. It was wonderful to meet new women and hear some of their stories. Next time, we will record video of the event and post it to the website for those who can't attend in person.
Additional Resources: Child Loss
This week, we heard stories from women who have experienced the trench of child loss. We hope these additional resources offer strength and encouragement to those who are also in this trench. Please leave additional suggestions in the comments!
Days before I gave birth to Toby, I was struggling with emotions. I was so worried about how I was going to love both of my boys as much as they needed and give them everything they deserved. I asked my mom, "How am I going to love both of them equally? How will I support and protect both of them without one feeling left out?"
He Should Be Here
Life is not fair, and sometimes there simply are not any reasons for what happens. Holding my son in my arms while his heart slowed and then stopped was not fair. Leaving the hospital with an empty car seat with my son in the morgue was not fair. Having to pick an outfit to bury my son in was not fair.