Good morning, Trench Sisters!
Our current story series, Motherhood: A Love So Deep, has had a profound effect on my heart. Maybe it is because of my own child loss—or simply because these grieving mother stories are so heartbreakingly beautiful. Last week, Christina and Jessica shared with us such raw grief; you can still read their stories on the blog (or find links to their stories below).
STORIES AND FORUMS
This week, Anna and Jess will share about their own losses in a way that will be equally heart-opening for us. Be sure to visit the website on Tuesday and Thursday to read and share their stories and leave a note of encouragement for them.
Meanwhile, we need your help with our forums. The SFTT team is in discussion to change the way we engage and communicate in the Trench Community. We launched the forums seven months ago, and the engagement we were hoping for hasn't started yet. If you have the chance, would you email me your thoughts? Do you like the idea of the private forums through our website? Or would you be more willing to engage in a private Facebook group? Do you have any other comments or suggestions? We will be doing an official poll soon but wanted to put the word out there that we may be changing our direction and wanted your feedback. You can email me at email@example.com (or simply reply to this newsletter).
For those in the Chicagoland area, we are having our first live event! Join us for Just Breathe: A Women's Wellness Event on Saturday, June 3, from 1 to 3 p.m. at Farm-Land in Wauconda, IL (click here for directions). I've partnered up with Sally Dingle, from Empowered by Oils, and Jordan, the owner of Farm-Land, for an event that will help you stay centered as you move through your trenches. Get more information and register at www.storiesfromthetrenches.org/justbreathe.
NEEDS AND OPPORTUNITIES
We are looking for four more stories for our June series. Do you have a trench story about a man in your life—past or present? Did you help your spouse through cancer? Did your marriage end in divorce? Are you a widow or disconnected from your father? Please consider sharing your trench story with us. You can submit your story at www.storiesfromthetrenches.org/stories.
Founder, Stories from the Trenches
Eli's birthday is this coming Wednesday. He would be five years old. This birthday feels very weighty and heavy with my grief. I love five years old, and I won't ever get to experience this age with Eli the way I did with my girls. Leaves that hole in my chest feeling raw, scarred, and burning. If you have lost a child, how do you celebrate (or not celebrate) their birthday?
Recent Stories and Resources
Additional Resources: Child Loss
This week, we heard stories from women who have experienced trenches of motherhood—a story of child loss and a story of infertility. We hope these additional resources offer strength and encouragement to those who are also in these trenches. Please feel free to leave additional suggestions in the comments!
The Smallest Things
As a child, one of my favorite things to read was A.A. Milne’s Winnie the Pooh series. The following is a quote from Pooh Bear: “Sometimes, the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.” Reflecting on that sentiment after everything that has happened in the last year makes it even truer. I never knew how much love my heart could feel for someone until I was pregnant, but I also didn’t how much pain a person could experience until I lost my beloved child.
When the Storm Ends
I often think of my wedding day. Not necessarily about my dress, décor, or the party, but mostly the weather. The day of my wedding, it rained. I don’t mean a little rain storm; it was a torrential downpour. I was so upset because I worried about our out-of-town guests traveling in the storm—and I worried my hair would fall, my dress would get dirty, or my make-up would run.