Weekly Newsletter

Good morning, Trench Dwellers!

This past week, authors Katie and Barb took us on an emotional journey through choosing adoption. Both of their stories had us living through heart-wrenching moments alongside them. I felt like I was there at their table when Katie told Barb she was pregnant and there at the hospital when baby Nora was born. I could feel all their emotions—my heart breaking and soaring with them. If you haven't read their stories, read them on the blog (or find links to each story below).


In the coming week, we will hear from one author, Missy, who shares two stories. Her first story is about the loss of her beloved dog. If you any of you have a pet who is like family, you can relate to such a loss. Then Missy shares a captured moment during her battle with cancer that is raw with emotion.

Be sure to scroll down to the comment section after each of her stories to answer the question of the day as well as leave Missy some words of encouragement. We also hope you will encourage one another in the forums, as we focus this week on illness and cancer.


In honor of Mother's Day and International Bereavement Day, we are honoring grieving mothers in the month of May. Are you a grieving mama who would be willing to share your journey of love and loss? A grieving mother includes infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, and loss of a child. We are also looking for stories about your own mothers. There are all different kinds: amazing moms, loving grandmas, adoptive moms, foster moms, guardian moms. Would you share your mom story with us? The deadline for submitting these stories is April 24; visit our story submission page to get started.

Also, be sure to check out our volunteer page if you are interested in joining the SFTT team. We are looking for those who have talent with event planning, and that's just one of many opportunities to join our amazing team.

Jen G.
Founder, Stories from the Trenches

Jen's Journal

I'm a huge fan of Bob Goff and his book, Love Does. My husband, Tim, and I read Love Does a couple months after our son, Eli, passed, and it completely changed our view of life, people, and love. I've never had a book profoundly change my way of thinking like Love Does.

I am incredibly excited to now dive into Love Lives Here by Maria Goff (Bob's wife). I will post about it this week for #WomanCrushWednesday on social media and will be sure to devour enough of it to share a few quotes. If Love Does 180'd my viewpoint on love, I can't imagine what Love Lives Here is going to push me into—so stay tuned for my next adventure into love. Is there a book that profoundly changed your way of thinking?

Recent Stories and Resources

Additional Resources: Adoption

This week, we heard a shared trench story of giving up a child for adoption, told from two perspectives. We hope these additional resources offer strength and encouragement to those who are also in this trench. Please feel free to leave additional suggestions in the comments!

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A Bittersweet Adoption

It was late, close to 2 a.m. The front door had just closed behind Andy as he went home. It was early September 1995, I had just turned 17, and I was wrapping up a perfectly great teenage summer. My boyfriend, Andy, had been home from his first year of college at the University of Iowa, and I was looking forward to my senior year of high school and then heading there, too, to get my nursing degree.

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A Bittersweet Adoption: The Support Story

It was March 4th, 1989. Pete and I had a beautiful wedding, the second one for both of us, with all of our kids—five in all—as part of the wedding party. Greg was twenty years old; Chris, eighteen; Katie, eleven; and both my daughter, Laurie, and Pete’s daughter, Kristin, were four. What an adorable family we made! Life would certainly be filled with hearts and flowers forevermore . . .

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