Good morning, Trench Dwellers!
We concluded our marriage series, Wholehearted, last week with grief and marriage stories from me and my husband. If you haven't had the chance to read them, you can find the stories on the blog—and please feel free to leave a note or ask questions in the comments. We really would love to hear your thoughts.
STORIES AND FORUMS
This coming week, we start a new series, Beautifully Messy March—a month of stories that do not fit into a single topic or theme. These stories will tug at your heartstrings, motivate you, and even answer some lingering doubts. On Tuesday, RoseyPosey will be sharing her story of mothering with a mental illness. Then on Thursday, Rebecca will share a unique view on her obsession with and avoidance of fire. Check back on Friday for additional resources related to these two stories.
Can we talk about our forums for a minute? Do you know we have message boards waiting for conversations to happen? One of Stories from the Trenches' main goals has been to connect and engage with one another. We would love for you to read the stories shared each week and then connect with our authors and others in the Trench Community. You can comment on stories and jump in via social media, as well, but the forums are a safe and private place to share openly about struggles and trenches—and to find encouragement. Join us in the forums during Beautifully Messy March!
NEEDS & OPPORTUNITIES
For the month of April, we are looking for three sets of families, friends, or married couples to share a trench story from two different perspectives. Do you have a child who has struggled with addiction, and would you both share what that trench was like? Did your best friend hold you hand through a divorce or the loss of a loved one, and would you both be willing to give your perspectives? Could you and your significant other share how you got through the worst storm of your partnership?
On a different note: do you have a passion for PR and Marketing? We are looking for someone to help navigate the waters of expanding SFTT both locally and nationally. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you are interested.
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I'm a bit obsessed with cookbooks. I may not have room in our kitchen for my obsession, but our local library does. I spend at least 20 to 30 minutes a week hanging out in the cookbook section and picking a few new ones to bring home. I don't even always try the recipes—the beautiful pictures and descriptions are enough.
My latest favorite finds are Dinner: A Love Story, by Jenny Rosenstrach, which you should run, not walk, to buy and read! It will be the cookbook I give to my daughters for their weddings and covet forever. Also, New Taco Classics, by Lorena Garcia, is another run-don't-walk cookbook to have in your kitchen. If nothing else, go buy Colijta cheese the next time you have taco night, and you will thank Lorena for the rest of your life.
Recent Stories and Resources
Additional Resources: Grief & Marriage
This week, we heard a shared trench story of grief, told from both perspectives in a marriage. We hope these additional resources offer strength and encouragement to those who are also sharing a trench with a spouse. Please feel free to leave additional suggestions in the comments!
Finding a New Marriage
Before my wife, Jen, and I could deal with our grief as a married couple, I discovered I first had to deal with all of my own issues. But even before that, the actual first step was to acknowledge that I had issues to face. There was no way we as a couple could thrive if I didn’t tackle my own issues. I could feel my issues underneath the surface, but we were both numb—until one day I couldn’t hold the issues down any longer.
Broken and Restored
Some statistic out there says 80% of couples divorce after suffering child loss. I have no idea if this is actually true, but it became my truth. It was the truth I would push against every time our marriage hit a pothole, lost its footing, and especially when we hit rock bottom. Even at rock bottom, that statistic hung in the air and had me swearing I would not be part of it. Besides the odds against me, my daughters suffered through too much—too much out of their control—to then suffer through a divorce.